It’s been over a year since I last blogged here, and everything is very different. I feel like a totally different person. I have a lot of thoughts and feelings that I’m just now realizing I could post about, but I can’t quite put them all into words right now. I’m going to ease myself back into this by doing TMI Tuesday again.
1. Where you live what is the current season?
Here, in Los Angeles, it’s winter!
2. Do you measure/report the weather temperature in Celsius or Fahrenheit?
3. Describe your ideal day of weather?
Depends on my mood. I particularly love rainy days, cool and overcast with both light and hard rain. That kind of weather just makes me want to curl up on the couch with hot cocoa and cookies and popcorn and a movie. Then I just want to cuddle up with a cute boy in bed and have sex with the windows open and the sound of the rain.
4. When it is cold outside I want to:
a. Run outside naked because it is exhilarating.
b. Bundle up in warm clothes and take a winter walk.
c. Turn the heat up, stay indoors, hibernate until warm weather returns.
d. I do not pay attention to the weather.
None of the above – I want to keep the temperature cool, wear only a robe, and get someone into bed with me to warm me up.
5. Do you go “commando” in cold weather or in winter?
No. Maybe I should? Is there a reason people do this?
6. For 10,000 USD would you rather ride a bike for one mile (1.6 km) in 7 degrees F/ 14 degrees C weather or jump naked into a freezing cold Alaskan lake in winter?
I suppose I’d rather ride the bike, since I wouldn’t have to be naked, but someone would have to teach me how to ride a bicycle.
7. What is your favorite piece of winter clothing?
Coats! I have several cute ones.
8. Have you ever worn Long Johns aka long underwear or thermal underwear?
I actually think I have. I don’t know why, but I suspect it was when I was much younger and my mother was, for some reason, convinced that I was just going to freeze to death.
Bonus: Do you have more or less sex in the winter months vs. other times of year?
About the same. My sex life is very minimal all year. More on that later.
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Happy Tuesday again! Hopefully this week I will have time to go around reading other people’s responses… I knew summer would be busy, just didn’t expect it to start so early! In the meantime, y’all can enjoy my responses to this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.
1. Answer Yes or No:
I Regret My First Kiss – No… It’s not that I regret it, I just don’t really remember it. I didn’t find it memorable or earth-moving or anything. I think at the time it was a big deal and I told myself I would remember it, but I don’t.
I Miss My First Love – No. At least, I don’t think so. When I think about on the first person I loved (like, know deep in my heart I loved, not just dated), I don’t really feel anything. If anything there’s still some lingering resentment. At times I miss the people we used to be and the way we used to be, but that feeling is fleeting. The opposite of love is indifference, after all.
I Married My First Love – No. Thanks for rubbing it in my face that I’m not married and nowhere close. That makes me feel good inside. At least I don’t wish I were married to my first love now.
I Loved Someone That Didn’t Love Me – Yes. And if you answer anything else I will hate you.
2. Do you consider yourself monogamous or polyamorous or some other category which you will explain or define for us now?
Honestly not something I’ve really thought about. I don’t really have any evidence that one is better than the other; the way I always think of it is that I don’t know that polyamory doesn’t work. I used to think that, though logically polyamory made sense, emotionally I was entirely devoted to one person. After a while that sense faded – when you get burned enough times (and in my case it didn’t even take that many times), you stop trusting anyone who shows interest in you. They’ll sleep with your best friend, they’ll tell you you’re not Christian enough, they’ll tell you they’re married, they’ll find someone taller and prettier and skinnier. Why devote yourself so completely to someone who is more likely to hurt you than to protect you? And even when I was emotionally tied to one person, there was never another person to give any attention to – I simply wasn’t interested. Whether I wasn’t interested because I’m inherently monoamorous or because I convinced myself I was or because I just really didn’t find anyone who met my standards because I’m incredibly picky is uncertain, of course, but the point is that I still don’t know that either is better than the other and the way I should live my life.
3. Your partner is in the mood for sex and you are tired – what do you do?
a. Start snoring. There is no way I’m giving it up tonight.
b. Trade. You give me a massage… and we will see…
c. That would never happen!
To be honest, I’d probably perk up at the promise of sex, but I should probably at least try to get as much as I could out of the situation.
4. Does your partner mind if you masturbate, in bed, when they are there?
Depends. I never really went into this with most of my partners, but my last one would not have minded at all.
5. Describe your typical sexual romp:
a. You are playful and tame
b. You have occasionally introduced a few things like outfits and toys
c. You love trying new things and shocking your partner
While it’s true I love trying new things, my partner strongly influences the type of sex we have. Guys tend to want to start out playful and tame – and let’s be honest, so do I until I know them better and trust them more. But unfortunately, most of my partnerships end quite early. Either I don’t enjoy the sex, they don’t enjoy the sex, or I lose interest in them outside of the sex. The only partner I’ve been with long enough to do more than “boring” stuff loved outfits and toys, and I loved sharing with him because I knew he wouldn’t complain or judge me. I’m sure I did a few things that took him by surprise, and most of them he liked, but we also had sort of tried and true methods for having good sex that we were loathe to not do. Why fix something that’s not broken, right?
Bonus: What was your best ever masturbation experience. Why was it the best? Describe.
The best? I’ve never thought about that. I sort of remember really good ones, but I’ve never sat and compared them. All my really good ones involved either phone sex or Internet sex because… well, call it cheating, but it was like guided masturbation. Once it was “awww poor thing you’re so sick here let’s cuddle oh and now you’re thinking about groping me.” One week we called each other early in the morning before work to have wake-up phone sex. A couple of times we had the opposite – just-home-from-work phone sex. I also had some very good hotel room Internet sex that involved sexy voicemails being left while the hotel staff slid my bill under the door of my room. And he’s sent me some very nice pictures and left me some very nice voicemails that I’m always going back to whenever I’m in the mood – one of my favorite things about my iPhone is that I can scroll down and pick out the voicemail message I want to listen to 😀
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Hello again! Things have been picking up at work lately and I’ve started to have less and less time to sit at the computer. Soon summer will be here and I won’t have any time at all!
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about masturbation! Because it’s that time of year again!
1. My favorite place to masturbate is ________ ?
Boring: the bed. It’s just more comfortable than anyplace else. There’s a mattress, and pillows, and sheets, and all my toys are right there…
2. Have you ever masturbated in public? What were the circumstances?
“In public”? Not sure what that means. I did stop in a mall parking lot once while having phone sex. (He knew I was driving, but then as soon as I got off the freeway I was in a mall parking lot with my We-Vibe Tango.) The mall was open, but it wasn’t like people were watching or anything.
3. Do you like mutual masturbation? Why?
Well, yes, because, phone sex. But I also like watching him masturbate. I think it’s sexy, and I like to know what he’s thinking while he’s doing it.
4. When was the last time you masturbated?
This morning! My first time this month! Yay me! It was raining and I used like five different toys.
5. Have you ever masturbated on camera?
6. Do you like to watch people masturbate?
Yes. Especially partners I feel very close to or really enjoy having sex with.
Bonus: Have you filmed yourself masturbating? Care to share that film via a link?
No ): Although to be fair, it’s not very interesting. I’m sort of low-key and more focused on enjoying the process, rather than being really active or overt.
Happy Tuesday everyone! How are you? I had a lovely spring break trip – nothing sexy, just good food and good fun (and a lot of walking). I came back desperate for a massage and busy with backlogged work. Now that I’m a bit more on top of things, it’s back to memes and chasing hard-to-catch casual sex. You know, the usual.
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about something I know all too well… college.
1) Have you ever been sexiled? (To be sexiled is to be denied the use of your room, usually dorm room, because someone is having sex there.)
Nope. I mostly just didn’t care and walked into the room anyway. This really only happened once, and my room was separate so I had a door of my own anyway.
2) Were you ever hit on (propositioned) by a someone in your circle of friends who knew you were in a relationship with someone else?
No ): Funny story about a friend I knew was in a relationship with someone else: I wanted to sleep with him. He wanted to sleep with my best friend. Hilarious, right?
3) Did you ever date someone for sex only, i.e. in hopes of a 1-night stand?
Not so much a one-night stand, but maybe multiple nights… I guess I’m not clear on a definition of “dating.” I’m open to the idea of a mostly physical relationship, but I’ve never really had one. I further suspect that it’s in my nature to care, so I can see that a guy would start to feel weird because I’d start to care about his job, his stress, his family, etc. just out of habit, not because I want to MARRY HIM RIGHT NOW or anything.
4) Were you ever involved in a regrettable sexual incident where alcohol or drugs were involved?
No – I don’t do drugs and I can’t get drunk. I have friends who were in this situation, but I was not involved.
5) Did you ever see a porn movie in an actual movie theater? Did you ever see porn on home movie (8mm) before the age of videotape?
I have a circle of friends who are older than me… and I like to play a game that consists of me proving just how young I am. I always win this game.
I’m not old enough for this question 😛
6) Did you ever discuss the prowess of a sex partner with a friend? Did the friend also have a history with the same person?
I’ve never been friends with anyone who has also slept with someone I slept with. I have discussed my sex life and my partners with friends. I talk about my last partner all the fucking time. Since we broke up, you probably wish I’d stop. I do too, frankly.
Bonus: Many heterosexuals ‘experiment’ in college by having their first same-sex encounter. If you are heterosexual did you have your first same-sex sexual experience in college? Did you like it? What did you do? Are you still hetero-flexible or did you become bisexual?
Never had one of those in college. I did spend a night with a friend talking about all the people – of all genders and sexual orientations – in our class we’d sleep with. I had much higher standards than she did. And actually, many of the people I picked were women. I wasn’t that interested in most of the guys I went to college with. They were either friends, not physically attractive to me, dating someone, gay, too pretentious, or endowed with too much white male privilege for me to handle. I’m also pretty sure they all wanted to sleep with my friends/roommates before me. I’m still flexible on who I’d hook up with, I’ve just never really thought about it.
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(I love this image. I wish I could say it was me. But it’s not.)
Hey everyone! Happy Tuesday once again. I skipped a couple weeks of TMI Tuesday; two weeks ago I was actually just offended by the first question about Lent. Why would you assume that I observe Lent? That seemed like a poor assumption and, as I’m incredibly unfond of religion, I was sort of turned off to all the other questions as well. Last week was incredibly crazy and I was not at my best. But that’s a different story for a different time/different blog. This week’s questions are really good though!
1. What made the best sex partner you’ve ever had so good?
A combination of things. I was at a high point of sexual confidence, so I had no problem telling him what I liked and what I wanted. While every guy I’ve been with has wanted to make sure it was good for me (those are their exact words), I hadn’t really figured out what would make it really good until this guy. Second, he was willing to do what I wanted, even though it wasn’t exactly what he wanted/wasn’t really something that worked for him. In other words, he was willing to dominate me because I wanted him to, not because he actually wanted to. He would have much preferred to cuddle me and have very gentle sex, but that’s not really my thing after the first few times. Lastly, we loved each other and I trusted him so that the idea of submitting was safe and hot, rather than anxiety-ridden.
2. What made the worst sex partner you’ve ever had so bad?
All of the opposite things from 1. I did not really like him, did not entirely trust him, and honestly wanted him to just shut up the whole time. Our personalities clashed, and I wasn’t as willing to open up and tell him what I liked. Actually, I told him what I didn’t like – the lights on – and he ignored me. Which I let go. My bad. He was very overbearing and tried too hard to take control. Normally, I like this, but he wasn’t good at it so I lost interest quickly. He also asked me to do things that made me really uncomfortable. As much as I wanted to not judge and explore, it was incredibly unsatisfying sex. I should have asked him to leave the minute he asked me to speak in Japanese to him.
3. Who was the most physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
UHHHH. I don’t have sex with good-looking people. Probably my last partner. I thought he was very handsome in a sort of boy-next-door way. Not so good-looking that I was intimidated, but enough so that I was attracted but comfortable.
4. How was it?
It was always good, and sometimes it was downright amazing. We were long-distance, so we got pretty good at communicating. See almost everything I’ve written about our sex.
5. Who was the least physically attractive person you ever had sex with?
Oh that’s so subjective and I feel so bad ;___; (Do I count? I have sex with myself a lot.) Probably the Friend With Benefits I had while in grad school. He’s adorable, but in an adorable way. Not really in a drop-your-panties kind of way.
6. Why did you do it?
I really needed sex. That sounds incredibly shallow, but true.
7. How was it?
Eh, it was okay. Again, unsatisfying because we weren’t really in a relationship. I told him what I liked, but he wasn’t really into it; he actually admitted most of the time he was “too tired” to do things that would really get me going. So I got like, half-sex.
Bonus: Describe a bad sexual experience you admit was your fault.
The aforementioned bad sex. I admit that it was my fault because I shouldn’t ever have slept with him. That would have made my life a lot easier. He was persistent so I gave in (shut up, I know you’re judging me), and that was a huge mistake.
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You are having dinner at the best restaurant you can imagine. Do not concern yourself with over-eating, or other restrictions. We want to know what you like best. What will you have for:
1. Before dinner wine, aperitif, or cocktail?
The usual: a Midori sour. As I age my genetic allergy to alcohol becomes more and more apparent; now I can barely drink a glass of wine during a meal. I had champagne at a Mother’s Day dinner and barely finished it. Midori and amaretto are about all I can handle these days, and only then when mixed with something else.
This is a fancy restaurant, right? So no mozzarella sticks… I guess I’ll have to go with either calamari or a baked brie.
Tomato or lobster bisque. Although to be fair I’m not much of a fan of soup, so I could probably do without this. I also don’t know many kinds of fancy soup.
One of those fancy “summer” salads with candied walnuts, dried fruit, mandarin oranges, avocado, grilled chicken, a citrus dressing, etc.
5. Wine or other beverage with dinner?
I’d probably have to stick to water. Soda doesn’t seem very fancy at all, and champagne and wine would probably just be wasted on me. If I’m not paying, I’ll take a glass of a nice cab sauv. And just one, thanks. No white wine for me.
Steak. Mmmmm steak. Maybe steak and lobster. Surf and turf!
7. Side Dishes?
Sweet potato, salad, green beans, grilled vegetables, homestyle potatoes. Now I’m just thinking about the dinner I had at Ruth’s Chris once.
Pecan pie, if we can swing it. If not, creme brulee or sorbet.
9. After dinner drink?
Maybe a coffee with some Bailey’s or amaretto, maybe a dessert wine. Or maybe just a lot of water, I’d probably need it after that meal.
10. Which 3 people would you invite to dinner: (must be famous, well-known, living or dead, not fictional)
– For sex appeal
Benedict Cumberbatch, Chris Evans, Matt Bomer, Katharine Hepburn, Audrey Hepburn, Jimmy Stewart (take your pick)
– For great conversation
Stephen Colbert, Jon Stewart, Joss Whedon (again, take your pick). Apparently I don’t know any dead people that were also good conversationalists.
– Because you detest them
… Why would I invite some famous person I detest to dinner? Ummmm… M. Night Shyamalan, so I could throw a glass of water in his face for The Last Airbender fiasco. I demand Asian actors in Asian roles, dammit!
Unfortunately, I’m not really a fancy and sophisticated person with nice tastes. My family didn’t have a lot of money while I was growing up so eating out at even a “regular” place was pretty special. Even for special occasions like weddings or graduations we were trying to feed too many people to have fancy food. We’re not really a fancy restaurant family; we’re more taco trucks and Chinese-food-is-only-good-when-the-health-department-hates-the-restaurant people. And trust me, you don’t make much money as a graduate student, not nearly enough to acquire fancy eating habits.
Bonus: Your lover brings you breakfast in bed. What’s on the tray?
I suppose he wouldn’t fit on the tray, would he?
Hmmm… fresh fruit (preferably honeydew or pineapple), eggs (scrambled, with onions and mushrooms), sausage (the fancy breakfast links), and hot chocolate. And orange juice.
And something sweet and sticky, because I know what I would want to lick up and where I want to lick it from after breakfast.
Finally, come play with me and my partner! (He’s still sick, and in no mind to answer questions, so I get more time to think of good ones.)
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So excited! I love National Masturbation Month! I’m definitely getting myself at least one new toy to celebrate!
All of this week’s TMI Tuesday questions are about masturbating >:)
1. How often do you masturbate? On average over the course of a year, maybe twice a week. I go through swings in activity; sometimes I can go as often as five days a week, other times I can go almost two weeks. Just depends on how I feel, I guess.
2. What are you doing to celebrate Masturbation month? Nothing, really ): Masturbating is not like, special in May. I will probably get at least one new toy to celebrate, but that’s not out of the ordinary either, now that I think about it.
3. Do you like to watch your partner masturbate?
a. Yes, it turns me on.
b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused.
c. Not really, it’s boring.
d. No, it’s a turn off.
e. I’ve never experienced it but I’d like to.
Hell yes A. (And a little bit of E.)
4. Do you let your partner watch you masturbate?
a. Yes, it turns me on to be watched.
b. Sometimes, because it gets my partner very aroused.
c. No, it’s embarrassing.
d. I’ve never experienced it but I’d like to.
D, but I really think we’d both prefer it if he got to join in before long anyway.
5. Mutual masturbation? Yea or Nay?
6. If you had an all-expense-paid trip to San Francisco to attend Masturbate-a-thon 2012 would you go and masturbate? Why or Why not?
Probably not. I’d rather not go by myself, plus I have a tango class on Sunday nights. I’m already excited because the dance class gets me out of having to go to an engagement party.
Bonus: Are you addicted to masturbating?
My guess is that if I can go a week or more without masturbating, that’s a no.
Oh! And maybe help me out with this? Pretty please?
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I’d meant to post late last week, but got busy and decided not to. I also am pretty sure that anything I wrote on the relationship subject that I wanted to talk about would just sound whiny, so I won’t go there just yet. Things aren’t “fixed” though, and I can’t just forget about them, which is probably why I feel so restless and irritable.
Additionally, I’ve been invited to a wedding in a few weeks, and I need some advice.
Anyway, today is Tuesday! So it’s time for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.
1. Are you wearing any jewelry? What?
The Tiffany hearts necklace I got in New York a few years ago (that technically I shouldn’t be wearing because my skin destroys pure sterling silver), a cheap glass rhinestone ring from Forever 21 that I bought when I was Alice for Halloween (it’s a clear heart-shaped rhinestone), earrings that are shaped like hollow crescent moons with a rhinestone-studded star in the center, and a faux white leather and gunmetal chain bracelet with rhinestones.
2. What are you listening to now?
My iTunes, which is kept up in a very specific way that makes no sense to anyone but me. Right now it’s playing this song:
3. What is the last piece of entertainment media (i.e., cd, download, book, DVD) that you purchased? Do you recommend it?
Purchased? Hmmmm… I’m trying to go back over what I’ve bought recently. (I have a lot of things I’ve been reading/watching/listening to for the first time recently, but I bought most of them a long time ago.) I’d have to guess that it’s “Glad You Came” by The Wanted. And yes, I would recommend it. It’s a great dancing song – I dance to it while I do dishes all the time.
4. What kind of undergarments are you wearing right now? Care to post a photo?
Sexy red panties and a cute pink bra. Hang on, let me get my camera.
Sorry it’s a weird shot. Lying down was the best way to get a picture.
Not the best picture of my ass ever, but not the worst either.
5. What is your current mood?
Hungry. Is that a mood?
6. What is the best looking thing about you today?
Uhhhh… I have no makeup on, my hair isn’t brushed (it’s been air-drying since my shower), and I’m wearing pajama pants, so I’d have to go with my breasts.
7. Fill in the blank. Tonight I’m looking forward to _____________ .
The NCIS: LA half of the Hawai’i Five-0/NCIS: LA crossover episodes. Bonus points because yes, I know Alex O’Loughlin is out on issues related to injury, but how awesome is it that they can make the show still work without him?
Bonus: Tell me something good… anything you want to share. Just do it
I can’t think of anything really good. There’s not much good that I’m excited or particularly happy about.
I bought fun things at Victoria’s Secret yesterday. This is my new bra:
And I can’t actually find the other thing I bought on the website. Oh well! 😉
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Hello! Sorry I’m late this week, I was in New York visiting people!
Love, Hate, and Guilty Secrets. We never mind telling people about things we love or hate, but how about the things we love, but would hate for anyone to find out about?
Well, it’s time to free yourself of that fear!
For each of the categories below, list one thing you love, one that you hate, and then, take a deep breath and tell us something you hate to admit you love.
You’ll feel better for it!
I love Japanese food.
I hate Thai food (only because I’m allergic to peanuts, and Thai food has lots of it).
My guilty secret is … white chocolate?
(I’m really not ashamed to admit all the food I like. I think food is cool. But people tend to hate white chocolate and be judge-y about it not being “real” chocolate.)
I love jeans.
I hate anything that shows my midriff.
My guilty secret is socks.
I love children’s and young adult fantasy.
I hate the last Harry Potter book.
My guilty secret is The Dresden Files.
I love “Want You To Want Me.”
I hate pretty much anything by Katy Perry.
My guilty secret is “Till the World Ends.”
I love While You Were Sleeping.
I hate … Well I’m not really sure.
My guilty secret is Dodgeball.
6. TV Show
I love The Big Bang Theory.
I hate most reality TV.
My guilty secret is White Collar.
(Okay, but TV is like food. I’m pretty open about all the things I love.)
7. Celebrity Crush
I love … Joseph Gordon Levitt?
I hate … Kanye West?
My guilty secret is … Adam Levine?
(I’m very confused. I don’t really have celebrity crushes.)
8. Music Group
I love Savage Garden.
I hate Katy Perry (though technically not a group).
My guilty secret is the Backstreet Boys.
(The Backstreet Boys is a grad school inside joke.)
9. Sports Team
I love the UCLA Bruins.
I hate the USC Trojans.
My guilty secret is that I’m not a Lakers fan.
Sex Position or Sex Act or fetish
I love doggy style.
I hate cowgirl or anything that requires me to be on top in a way my partner can see the parts of me that I think are ugly.
My guilty secret is oral sex.
(Again, not a particularly guilty secret. I’m pretty open about the fact that I love giving oral sex.)
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