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i’m getting more open hearted // tmi tuesday #24

Hello everyone! Things have changed a lot since my last post in – OH GODS – MAY, so I’m not around nearly as much as I would like to be. I did hear that WordPress may not be the home I want for my blog, so if anyone has any knowledge or so forth to help me move the blog, I’d be much obliged! The next step for me is to collect all my disposable income that I’ve squirreled away over the past couple of months and buy a new laptop to carry to work and while I’m on the go. I’d like to be more active on Twitter as well again, but for now, work and the ridiculous commute is keeping me pretty busy. After the laptop comes a new apartment!

TMI Tuesday stole the EXACT image I was going to use once I saw the questions! This week is a fun amalgamation of questions sort-of-kind-of related to porn.

1. What sex act have you seen in porn videos/films and have never done but want to do? (Describe act or post a link)

From http://www.virtualsin.wordpress.com

So actually, most of the porn I’ve watched has been for educational purposes. And I mean that literally – I watched it for a class. As a result, I don’t really remember any specific acts that I would want to do. I suppose some more aggressive bondage? Maybe? Believe me, I’ve said my fair share of ridiculous, cheesy, porn-esque lines, so we can cross that off the list.

Maybe just something as simple as making out against a recently shut door, or being picked up, carried, and dumped on a bed to be ravished 😀

I do fantasize about roleplaying, with surprising frequency. I’m not sure I’d be terribly good at it, but I suppose it’d be nice to at least try just to see.
2. A lot of porn is remakes of old ideas. It’s difficult to be creative in porn because it’s all basically about the same thing. Everyone is starved for ideas, and if some new idea is successful, it’s immediately swamped by knock-offs. Do you have an idea for something even a little bit new in porn?

From https://hersecretlibrary.wordpress.com

No, I pretty literally do not. I also don’t know that I’ve seen enough porn to know what would be considered “original.” This kind of disappoints me, since I enjoy reading, critiquing, and reviewing some forms of erotica, so it’d be nice to be more well-versed in more traditional forms of pornographic media.
3. Whilst ideally we’d all like to say our partner provides us with the best orgasms, what’s really making you see stars?
a) masturbation
b) sex toys
c) my partner(s)

All of the above (:

4. Have you ever ‘cheated’ on your partner, and did they know/find out? Would you want someone to tell you if your partner was ‘cheating’? Define what you consider ‘cheating’.

I really think these questions should be answered in reverse order. I suppose I would define cheating as engaging in behaviors that were not openly shared out of a sense of guilt or propriety. I don’t think the actions need to be reserved to sexual behaviors, and could include other expressions of intimacy and desire. I also believe the relationship that you are “cheating” on should be established as an exclusive and non-casual one. Now, obviously, fantasizing should not be considered cheating, nor anything that is openly expressed or agreed upon. I think the reasons people are so hurt by what they perceive as “cheating” are related to the security of the relationship. We sense that if our partner cheats on us, we are: not _____ enough for them or unloved. I think behaviors that don’t compromise a relationship are acceptable. In the case of a relationship that is open to compromise – for example, a relationship whose members have found the relationship lacking in some way – the relationship should be ended, for the sake of those involved. I realize that definition is a bit vague, but it is hard to simply define cheating as if there is a single standard against which to compare all situations we might label with “cheating.”

I would want someone to tell me. I’m hardly subtle in my demonstration of interest and devotion to someone – when I like someone, EVERYONE knows. So I think it’d actually be quite frustrating for everyone to know how enamored I was with someone who didn’t deserve my devotion. At the same time, I wouldn’t want to hear it from just some random person. Just because the truth is out there doesn’t mean I’ll be happier knowing it – I can attest to the fact that, in cases of deep love and caring, I would rather prolong the illusion until it literally comes crashing down around me and rips my heart apart. Then I spend months – years, possibly – pining and being sad and crying myself to sleep.

I’ve never cheated on a partner. I’ve literally never had a partner to cheat on.

Bonus: Give us 2-3 erotic paragraphs incorporating the following words in your story(ette): Magnificent, Nero, Licks, Hard, Nipples. (And no, you can’t use them all in one sentence.)

Sorry all – I know you were hoping to read some actual fictional prose from me, but it’s terribly late and I need to get to bed. Maybe next time!

easy like sunday morning // tmi tuesday #5

Hooray! I’m almost on time this week! Good thing, because I’m off on another trip tomorrow morning (: Hopefully I’ll also be on time for next week’s post… *crosses fingers*

This week’s TMI Tuesday questions focus on sexual desire.

(By the way, the original TMI Tuesday post has “Sex on Fire” by Kings of Leon. I love that song. And I wouldn’t love it if it weren’t for my partner. He enriches my life in so many ways!)

1. Answer the question: What makes you hot?

I really need mental stimulation. Weirdly enough, a really intense or interesting lecture or presentation can get me hot. Apparently I have a thing for intelligence… which should probably not surprise me. Makes sense then that my partner is a teacher. This extends into sex – I can be stimulated without touch, just by being engaged mentally, just by thinking. Actual sex has often been a letdown because my mind stopped being interested and engaged and started to wander. I’m sure it’s easier for me to stay focused when I really care about or love my partner, but I’ve definitely been in situations where was definitely not being mentally or intellectually stimulated.

2. What is it that you want, when you look at porn?
a. To feel happy
b. To learn
c. To relax, relieve tension
d. To orgasm

Um, why is “foreplay” not an option? I suppose the closest is C. To be honest I’ve only ever watched porn for a class (yes, you read that correctly). I’ve mentioned it to my partner, but only because I think it would be good foreplay to get us both turned on and going so we can have fun with each other.

3. You’ve been asked to be a part of a porn movie production. Which job will you do? Why did you select that?

a. The star of the porn film–Doug Hardwicke or Fachina Istite
b. The director–staging the scenes and directing the actors, lighting, camera shots, etc.
c. The fluffer–you’re in charge of keeping the actors “excited” about their work
d. The camera person getting all the tight, up in there, close shots

I would love to say A, because what a waste if I’m not having sex?! Especially with particularly attractive men (or particularly attractive genitals, whichever is the case). But it would be more honest to say D. I can be very focused on a task and wouldn’t let the fact that there are naked people going at it distract me from what needs to get done.

4. Right this very moment you are horny and are looking for a casual hookup for sex. Under which, of the following headings, would you place your ad?
(w=woman, m=man, t=transexual/transvestite)

w4m, m4w, m4m, w4w, t4m, m4t, w4t, t4w, t4mw, mw4t, mw4mw, mw4w, mw4m, w4mw, m4mw, w4ww, m4mm, ww4m mm4w m4ww, w4mm

No, I have not done this. I often casually peruse the ads because sometimes they are particularly amusing. I would most likely use w4m, though in an alternate universe I would have the courage for w4mw or w4mm.

5. From now on, ’til the end of time you will be able to experience sexual pleasure via a single method. From the list below, choose that method. Why did you make that choice?

a. Vaginal penetration
b. Anal penetration
c. Masturbation with your fingers/hand
d. Masturbation with a single favorite sex toy. What is the toy?
e. Being masturbated (e.g. fingered, hand-job) by the fingers/hands of another person
f. Body Touching from another–full body massage, caressing, kneading, licking, sucking, biting, etc but no insertion of anything in any orifices.
g. Oral sex

Process of elimination. I am not too interested in B, C tires me out, I would never be able to pick a single toy in D, E tires out my partner, F is just foreplay, it’s not satisfying, and unfortunately I dislike G. I love giving oral sex, but I hate receiving it. I feel too gross for my partner, basically, which is sad but true. Luckily, I love A. And it’s very versatile. There are so many positions for it.

Bonus: What’s the sexiest thing you did this past weekend? Got any pics or a vid? 😀 ;p

Well I spent all of Saturday on a plane, so the weekend was decidedly unsexy. I spent most of Sunday in my pajamas at the computer. My partner finds it sexy at least.

(Image originally posted by justherguy on Tumblr. Click on the image to go there!)