everyone’s got an agenda // tmi tuesday #13
The holiday weekend threw me all off! Today definitely doesn’t feel like Tuesday… Worse, it feels like a Monday ): And I always have so much to do on Mondays.
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions are all about fantasies. (I typed “fantasy” at first, and then realized that might be misunderstood. No werewolves here.)
1. If your lover was turned on by forced feminization would you participate (giving or receiving)?
*forced feminization is the practice of enforcing activities on a male, which are typically associated with women, to make him submissive. For example: wearing lingerie, heels, make-up.
I suppose so. Why not? Unless he looks better in my lingerie than I do, in which case all bets are off and I reserve the right to sulk in the kitchen while eating an entire (small) carton of ice cream.
2. When you have sexual dreams or fantasies that are aggressive or cruel, does it worry you?
Not really. I rarely have aggressive/cruel dreams (or, more accurately, I rarely remember them, so it’s like not having them) and I control my fantasies, so it doesn’t bother me. I also know I tend to prefer aggressive sex anyway; my mind tends to wander and work quickly, so gentle, slow sex tends to give me too much leeway to get distracted.
3. Tell us your hottest filthiest fantasy, right now, in 100 words or less.
This is the fantasy about your desires that you probably never share, maybe they even go against your morals, or are societal taboos.
Okay, I’m actually working pretty hard at this, and I can’t think of any that are “filthy,” nor can I think of any that are both “hot” and “never shared.” For example, I have fantasies that I never share, but they’re more relationship-centered than sex-centered, if that makes sense.
Well, TMI. I often fantasize about what it would be like to actually date my partner – like, introduce him to my parents, have him over for Thanksgiving, have him take me out for my birthday, go on vacation together, think about “the future,” that kind of stuff. That’s not really hot, and I only never share it because sharing it would mean I also have to admit to myself that deep down I already know that we’re never going to be that kind of couple, and all the rest is just me pretending. Which is depressing. TMI.
Er, actually, this isn’t “filthy,” but it is hot: I am incredibly turned on by situations involving power. One of my longest and most detailed fantasies involves me being a very willing and obliging secretary. Like. Incredibly obliging. With hotel rooms and maid costumes obliging. (Yes, I have an extremely strong attraction to men in suits. Hush. You know you do too.)
And one for the road: socially taboo? Visiting my partner at his school and having sex in the teacher restroom.
4. Which super hero would you like to have sex with? Why?
c. Wonder Woman
HMMMM. If I had sex with Aquaman, would that also mean that I could breathe underwater? Because I think that would be pretty cool.
I imagine sex with Superman to be somewhat boring. I’m not sure why. Maybe because he’s a bit too much of a goody-goody for my tastes. But he has glasses, and glasses are sexy.
I’m going with Wonder Woman. She’s hot.
5. Knowing there’s a hot young couple in the adjoining hotel room, would you press your ear against the wall to hear the action on the other side?
Was that too enthusiastic? I’m just saying. I have a thing for hotel room sex as it is. It’d be like having free porn.
Clearly all of you should keep tabs on my travel plans.
6. Do you think the lure to live out sexual fantasies or have sex frequently is amplified by technology? Briefly explain.
I’m not sure I really understand this question, but I would say that technology helps us explore our fantasies, learn more about our sexuality, and connect with other people. Technology gives us access to a wide range of stimuli, which helps develop our sexual tastes and preferences, and introduces us to new ideas with which to build fantasy. Which, to me, leads to a healthy sex life and positive feelings towards our sexuality and sexual fantasies. On a more practical level, technology gives us access to people and information. Pornography is easier to find and with less fear of judgement attached. Speaking from experience, I have Internet and phone sex frequently, far, far more frequently than I have actual physical sex (disappointing for me, but what are you gonna do). And then there’s always the hook-up category on Craigslist.
Bonus: Describe your fantasy life in three (3) words.
Happy, healthy, interesting
I don’t think I understood that question either.
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